9 Signs Of A Bored Man Who’s Wasting Your Time
#WasteHerTime2016 was a cruelly fair and slightly hilarious hashtag that embarked trending earlier this year about all the ways dudes feign interest in women and leave them high and dry in the end. And just in case you left behind, it’s still two thousand sixteen and guys are still out here wasting time.
Rather than proclaim all fellows selfish little evil creatures with no regard for women’s feelings, I’ve come to the conclusion most studs are just bored. And what’s boys’s number one cure for boredom? Women. Hence the titillating texts and pretend propositions we randomly find ourselves on the receiving end of that leave us confused when none of the things discussed come to pass. If you’re still getting got by studs with too much time on their palms, look out for these signs of a man who just wants to waste your time.
His initial conversation is packed with sexual innuendo
Any man with a decent amount of sense who wants to do more than have hook-up with you wouldn’t dare bring up hook-up — or anything related to it — in your initial conversation. If ol’ boy claims he’s indeed into you, but all he talks about is wanting to get inwards of you, recognize his true intent is exposed in the latter.
His calls are more like check-ins than conversations
Ever deal with a fellow whose phone calls are like this?
“Hey just called to say hello”
“Okay cool. I’ll check in with you later.”
These conversations are like the kind you have with your grandparents just so you can say you called. He’s not attempting to get to know you. He’s attempting to get you to think he wants to get to know you.
His texts are routine rather than romantic
“Good morning beautiful. Have a good day”
“Hey beautiful. How was your day?”
“Have a good night beautiful.”
If you’re not getting past these make-her-think-you-care text staples he doesn’t care. He just wants a touch of female interaction.
It takes more than two weeks for him to set up a date
We’re busy people. It takes real rearranging to find free time to schedule a fresh person into your social calendar. But if it takes more than two weeks — pre-planned vacations withstanding — he’s not all that antsy to see you. In fact, he may not want to see you at all. Texting during his bored time is enough to tie him over.
He asks to come see you rather than take you out
“Can I come by and see you?” is code for “Can I sleep with you tonight?” or at least a clear sign he’s going to attempt to. Even if he claims he just wants to “chill” or “see a movie,” that’s not even remotely close to asking you out on a real date.
He flakes on pseudo plans
We can respect a man who tells us he might be able to do something with you but can’t entirely commit at the moment. The problem occurs when he never circles back to tell you he can’t actually dangle out and then he never brings up the pseudo plans again, as if you never discussed the possibility.
He’s never doing anything when you text him but he’s too busy to see you
“Oh I can’t. I gotta (insert random activity he has no intention of completing).”
If this happens more than once and he never suggests an alternative date he’s wasting your time.
He witnesses your snaps but doesn’t text back
He likes looking at you. He doesn’t want to actually have to response to you (in more ways than one).
He only talks to you on social media
You may think this distant paramour who comments on every pic is just too jumpy to ask you for your number so he keeps the conversation limited to Facebook messages and the like, but any man who was truly interested would find the nut sack to get the digits. He likes the attention, he doesn’t want to indeed date.