30 Signs You’re a Booty Call
If you’ve even asked yourself this question, you already know. But you may want to read to be sure.
In some situations, it’s effortless to get confused about what’s going on inbetween you and a potential beau. A fellow may just be taking things leisurely, like a cautious youthfull man. Other guys may just be casual—nothing serious there, mate! Or, others may consider themselves players—you may have been classed as the dreaded booty call, and you don’t even know it yet.
If you’re a bit of a female player or rigorously casual yourself, then you won’t mind at all. However, if you indeed like this boy and think it’s going somewhere, A.K.A. relationship land, and your gut is telling you something’s just not right, read on!
Do any of the following apply to you?
1. He has a gf or other dame (one-off) on the side.
Two. You have serious suspicions he’s sexting someone else.
Trio. Your friends and his can lightly prove your suspicions.
Four. Almost every time you meet up is planned or initiated by him and are almost always on his terms and turf.
Five. Rendezvous always lead to hook-up.
6. All you two do together is "get it in."
7. Meeting in public is often a no-no unless it’s for dinner or drinks, when he finds it absolutely necessary. Points four and five, listed above, are especially pertinent here.
8. Every time you meet, he never called to make plans in advance. He always calls and meets on the same day—at most, he will phone the day before.
9. If, and that’s a big, strong "if," he phones in advance, like a week earlier, the very first thing he says is, "I’m free next [insert day, time, and place here]."
Ten. You have been meeting for a considerable length of time with no growth in the relationship (if you can even call it that).
11. He only calls you to initiate meeting up or lovemaking. All other communication is done via text, Facebook talk, or IM, and all he says is mundane crap and stupid things. In retrospect, you realize it never amounts to an actual conversation.
12. His friends giggle as calmly as possible when in your presence.
13. There are no emotional discussions concerning the two of you.
14. There are no emotional discussions, period!
15. He has the task of taking off your clothes down to the second—you’d be butt-naked before Usain Bolt finishes a 100-meter.
16. There’s no falling asleep after hookup. If it’s over, he gets you to leave, or if it’s at your place, he does.
17. Unless the lovemaking is good. Then you can stay over for a morning sesh—followed by one of you leaving.
Eighteen. Cuddles and lovey-doveyness never happens before or after hook-up. If it does, he’s keeping you buttered up, so he can have your services for longer.
Nineteen. He says, "Thank you," after hook-up, possibly followed by, "Have a nice day/rest of night."
20. Hook ups are only when he feels like it, not you (it isn’t truly about you). They happen when he is free and doesn’t have another female over.
21. Whenever you make a request, he is busy.
22. He doesn’t care about the fresh underwear you sadly bought for him, but appreciates your level of hygiene and pubic hair maintenance.
23. Your friends roll their eyes as soon as you name drop him.
24. You’ve seen him out having dinner with someone else.
25. He loves doing it doggy-style—eye contact and any contact other than sexual doesn’t interest him. (I am aware there would be other positions going on, but a noticeable preference for this one is a crimson flag.)
26. You are always almost buzzed, buzzed, or tipsy whenever you have hookup.
27. He is never all up in your George Foreman when you want him to be (yep, there’s a bit of slang for you).
28. He hates it when you squealing over babies or adorable things—he acts as however talking of such things are rude. If you speak, he chooses it to be dirty!
29. When he asks about your day, he hopes it was bad, so you can let out some pent-up steam on him.
30. You can see many of the signs above in your current situation, but are still in full-blown denial.
Bear in mind it takes more than one of these signs to confirm booty-call status. If you can only tick one, fear not! You may be more than a tap-in, tap-out.
However, if it turns out you are, and you don’t want to be, woman up—get rid of him or request more. Unluckily, you need to be realistic. More than likely will not work either. The fact that you are a booty call says it all—he won’t give more.
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Comments
Patience hancock three weeks ago
me and my bf for five years been broke up for a month but we have twins babies together and we been having hookup the entire time is that a good or bad thing
Shirley Power six months ago
I had affair with a married man i think about him a lot and his name keeps coming to mind a lot and am not thinking about him when this happens does this mean he wants see me again
Also, if most of these are present, HE’S the booty call, not the woman. These signs only mean that he’s either not ready for a relationship, or that all he has to suggest ANY woman is what’s in his pants. Diva snip, snap, snip :-*
Number Five, 7, and fifteen are ridiculous. Hook-up is a very significant part of a relationship. Eighteen, if he does cuddle with you, why you gotta make women suspicious that he’s doing it just for lovemaking? and 22, some guys just aren’t truly into undergarments as other studs. Ease off!! Sheesh!!
Debra hughes ten months ago
I’ve been widowed five years married forty . Got caught up being a booty call because I dreamed it. I’m set in my ways, like my freedom, and if the right man comes along better for me! In the mean time it fills my sexual desires because I’m a very sexual person. He always tells me I talk to much. Guess I got to learn what he wants to hear.
Sadly enough almost all of the above applies to me. Seven months I’ve given him the best of me. And that’s all I was to him. I ultimately got the courage to end it last night. Just before our regular Friday night rendezvous began. He left angry and upset. Haha blue pouch is every man’s worse nightmare. Seven months and its always about work. Text msgs is all I get from him. No future plans of us together. He never met my two sons or mom. He never picks me up before a date.. Was I so blind. Dear god I cried all night last night. But I ultimately got up unfriended him deleted his pics and contact info. I’m done so done.
I dated a boy for two years and we were flawless until about a month ago. Now ever since we broke up he only calls me at eleven or twelve at night to come over and doesn’t act at all like how he used to. I cant tell if its because he actually misses me or am just a booty call now.
single nd luvinit two years ago
@ashamed. I’m sorry but you most undoubtedly are a booty call. He will never leave his wifey no matter how many times he says he will (if he ever has). I have a very good friend who is still going through the same thing. a married "bf" who vows he’s leaving his wifey for her and its been two years and she still believes him.. the entire long journey remark if not scrupulously explained by him is just that.. a remark.. he was very likely thinking you would question why he said that so he could give you a sob story of problems and troubles he’s having with his wifey to explain why he’s cheating.. sorry sweetie but married boys are off boundaries because they’re married.. would you want someone sleeping with your spouse if you were the wifey.
He is married and I’m single.. We hooked up to smoke and did it afterwards. I knew he couldn’t stay but the fact that he tells me to look at him when I’m cummin has gotten me confused. They after he has his clothes on he says ‘this seem like a long journey’. What does that mean? I understand if he had said it at my front door then that would mean he’s talking bout the drive home.. Then he plays with my butt as were leaving my room and twice before he walks out my front door. Is that a booty call or what?
single nd luvinit two years ago
Why is it always about the woman being the booty call. I’ve had the same booty call for three years and that’s all I want from him. we’re both single met through mutual friends and I have grown to love him but it’s a different kind of love cuz all I want from him is the amazing hookup I get.. he stays the night at my house, we cuddle, have emotional talk, nd he don’t sneak out early morning he stays into the afternoon, plays with my kids and vice versa.. we’ve never talked about getting into an actual relationship nd besides that I’ve been hurt nd heartbroken by my ex that I’m blessed and content having him when I need/want him. So to all u women that say u just realized you’re the bootycall you’ve known all along u were either ashamed or embarrassed to admit it.
I’ve been with this married man now for several months and he says we’re friends paramours n playmates n he someday sees us being together cause he’s unhappy in his marragie n don’t want to be with his wifey but says it’s to much drama to leave her but tells me I’m not a booty call but I sometimes feel that that’s all I am I worry a lot what could he indeed be wanting or doing
I meant "#29 resonated with me. "
I can relate to eleven of those criteria. Damn! Twenty nine resonated with me the most because I had suspected that was what he was fishing for when he asked me how I was doing but I wasn’t sure that made sense. Now I see that it does.
Foolish dame three years ago
I got five out of 30, but I ensure I’m still a booty call. Time to budge on 🙂
I lost my ten years relationship during April. My ex left me with so many agonies and since then i have been heart cracked and shattered. I have contact fifteen spell casters and ten of them has rip me off my money without any result. I have Emailed so many sites online looking for a good spell caster till i was directed by a sixteen years old lady to [email protected] At very first i never believed him because he was requesting for some amount of money to buy items, it took him three weeks to coax me and something occur to mind and i said let me give him a trial.
I was very shocked when Ruben called four days after i sent Dr OMO the items money. He apologies for all he has done wrong and i am very blessed that we are together today because he proposed to me last night. I will advise you contact Email [email protected] because he has done wonders in my life and i believe he can help you out in any problem
I have been friends with this fellow for two yrs we just bearly embarked having hook-up this year. But it’s always in his truck on a mess road his ex is providing him a hard time there divorce isn’t final so she is attempting to use him to get more out of him I’m not sure if I’m a booty call or not he was on the phone with me when my dad died he called me every day for a week . He says I’m special to him. But I guess I’m funked to ask him I don’t want to scare him off.
I was dating a Nigerian man who said he couldn’t suggest me a commitment but continued to see me every two to three weeks for a day. As I felt down and he had no time for me I had a fling with someone which I regretted, my beau found out months later when we became closer and broke up with me.
I know I am a booty call. He has a gf who does drive byes at nite sometimes. I still come by some nites or in the morning. We have convo an laugh then get busy. Talk some more hug say thank u so much an have. A good day. This has been goin on, on an off for seven yrs since my hubby cheated on me. We cut it off back in five cause I caught feelns. He made it clear it was just good lovemaking at the time. We seen each other last year at a jazz club an stared contactn agn (Nov.) Thanksgin it began. Everymonth atleast once. A wk since..
so what makes these guys think that we are ‘up for it’- and only that? I keep finding myself in this situation over and over, rather than meeting guys with a real intention to be with you. I don’t feel I’m walking around asking for it, not dressing up etc.. I don’t know how to stop them thinking that it’s ok to treatment me with only that intention!
Its so sad, especially because I have strong feelings for him =(
I met this man that my ex sister n law was suppose to be with. Well when we seen each other is was like we knew we would hit it off just fine. Well after a week of knowing eachother were already arguing like we knew each other a lot longer. Ok so I’m just going to make it brief we have feelings for each other but after an argument we determined to just be booty calls. Is this indeed booty call or what? He still smooches me when he walks in and before he leaves he smooches me. We are also always smiling at each other like we’re in high school. I gravely think there’s something else there but we hold back our feelings. Damn IDK.
The signs will demonstrate as early as the very first time you slept with him. Does he call in the middle of the day to ask how you are? Does he text you and say hello? If not here is what you do to response some questions.
Next time he ask to see you to your house at night, don’t agree tell him you will see him outside, go for a coffee and ask him why he wants to see you and can discuss it.
Don’t sleep with him again. Get some backbone and delete his number from your phone and keep in mind that you are better than this. Commence dating other guys.
Buy a sextoy instead. They are much better. No one messes with your bathroom and no one messes your house. No one requests from you and I am so sure that you will be pleased more that he can do you. So think about it, is he indeed worth it.
Does he make you smile or sob?
Does he make you feel secure or anxious?
Does he make you significant or trash?
Does he call you everyday or every three days?
Am aware am a booty call bt am lov’g it.All i nid to make maself glad wth a screw anytime i want. It’s more healthy two b a booty cal than a two av a freaking lonely life four yrs.Let hm take care of da normal human feel’gs dat sure. every living creature on planet earth luvs.
This was the funniest article I have ever read in my life. dcapone
Wow. this has been such an eye opener for me. I have been talking and witnessing this fellow for two years. He has recently separated from his wifey but still only sees me on his terms. What a loser I have been! I need to woman up and get the heck away from this man!
I just made love.
I know exactly what you are telling redhead, i have been doing the booty call thing with my dude for five yrs as well only it turned long distant and over the last year or so we only talk for hookup nothing else. need some advice. i met the family and friends and for a long time we had all the aspects that go with a potential gf and now all of that has come to a stop.
redhead chicka five years ago
OK, I totally know im a bootie call, no biggie im ok with it. I do have a few questions tho’, my mystery man and I have been doing this for just over 5yrs now, (oh i concider him my bootie call also)we talk sometimes and know fairly a bit abt eachother, even however I truly beleive he streches the truth a bit! I have been a real bitch to him, and he still comes back for more, last two times we were together very first he hugged me and said he missed me (what!!)this was strange, hes never done that before and the time after that he made a point to look into my eyes during lovemaking (uhhh hello) what is this all about? am I reading too much into this?? or is something switching in him? I do know that hes no good for me as for more than what this is, and as for a relationship, uhhh no!! absoulty not! he once asked me to leave my man,so I could be eaiser axcess for him, and if me & my man fight he wants to know if im leaving him.
I just want a point of view from someone, anyone? thx :-]
loveyourselffirst five years ago
Albeit I can only check five out of thirty above, I was a willing participant to a booty call for eight months until I ended it a month ago. The stud was separated from his wifey after a long marriage because she cheated with his best friend. OUCH!! I was also going through a separation so it seemed like a good idea at the time. After a while however, I embarked to fall hard for him but felt the proverbial wall he put up and determined to just keep on going because the lovemaking was that awesome (so sad, but true!). I eventually acknowledged my feelings that the situation just didn’t feel good and wasn’t working anymore. Had the "talk" with him and determined that we would take a break for a while and maybe revisit down the road. We had our last date and I left in the morning. Felt so loosened when I left, felt sad for a duo weeks after, and now feel empowered again for having the courage to get out of it and stay out!
Anyway, unless you are earnestly OK with a booty call for whatever reason, you need to end it now. The thing is, a stud will classify you very early on whether or not you are long term gf material or simply a "friend with benefits" or worse, the dreaded "booty call" (there is a marginal difference). A stud will almost NEVER turn a FWB or booty call into a real relationship so it’t best to get out before you get hurt (and eventually you will!). There are a ton of fine guys out there that know how to treat a woman with respect so make it your mission to go out and find him. The key here is to love and respect yourself very first! These two things are a must in all aspects of your life. When you truly acquire this and put it out there, the right fellow will turn up.
I answered to almost all thirty signs of the Booty call listed above. I met this stud four months ago and he only calls me when HE WANTS hook-up. I have never met any of his friends and family. I have NOT even met his roommates, he just sneaks me in his apartment, we have lovemaking and then he tells me that he needs to go to bed which indicates to me that I need to leave. I know he is a dating other women and yet I proceed to let him act this way. I am in love with him and hold on to my emotions, because I feel maybe things will switch and he will realize I am the ONE. tho’ deep inwards I know he will never commit to me and will be gone in a flash once he meets a doll who will be a princess in his eyes. I just wish things could switch and he would commit, but I know it won’t and I proceed to let him use me because I am that afraid of being alone 🙁
Ive been talking to this fellow for a while and I actually do like him but im not sure what the hell our "status" is. We have hookup and I love it as much as him and he stays the nights and we sleep after were done. He indeed turns me on and like wise, I just need advicd on if I should ask him what we are. Ive met his friends and we all get along superb. I haven’t met his fam yet but hes not living w them or getting along w em at the moment. Hes also met my parenrs and friends. So how should I go about asking?
I have been observing this man for six months and albeit we have done some things, it’s not all we do, Its not all about hookup, NO booty call HERE .
me and this dude have known each other for a while now but the past two years Weve became close. We would go out, stay at each others houses, also did other things and Ive met some of his family and weve been out with his close friends. Also we talk every day and we have actual conversations. BUT were not a "duo". So would this situation be considered a booty call??
i was a booty call to my ex until i called him out and told him to liberate my number am so relived right now,i should have done this sooner.
I’ve been celibate for two and a half years because I deny to be anyone’s booty call anymore, it hurts more to be in that situation that to be alone. I haven’t cried or lied to myself in a long time and I’m glad(for real). Everytime I hear other females talk now I am always loosened I’m not them. Unluckily women have set the bar indeed low so I believe its my desperate competition that has created such sorry dudes. Now that I’ve pretty much been forcing dudes to get to know me very first, I’ve realized that boys have had it so sweet over the years they don’t even know how to decently court a woman anymore, and judging from these comments I see why. No one else is making them. Join me ladies, get a backbone please! Stop being so desperate to be in a crappy relationship where your most likely gonna be always wondering, who’s he with now, what does she have that I don’t, does he love me?
Hey damsels! It’s been little over two years that I’ve been/had a booty call. It indeed is my concern that I led him to believe we could not be more than this, always cold and distant – because I did not care. I do not know if I can undo this because for the last few months I’ve wanting more, just to get more intimate. I am afraid the entire switch in attitude will scare him off. I am thinking there’s nothing to lose, "it" will end either way.
To Rachel–read about narcissism passive Aggressive abuse—the man you are falling in love with is my spouse to a T. Guess his Upbringing was to look at all women as just lovemaking fucktoys! If that is al you want to be is an object, manhandled, and used while he lies to you go for it. I am tired–time to take care of me and my son. Not worrying about his perverted lovemaking life anymore.
Ugh I am such a bootycall! Not that I didn’t know already but this sure helped put the penetrate in the proverbial coffin that was that relationship; it’s simply got to end. Even however it hurts, thank you for demonstrating me my practices aren’t isolated.
I been dealing with this boy for two years nd I asked him why are u fronting on me he said im not frontin you are my shorty I believe he like me he jus not reafy to lodge down I indeed love him like crazy so do I keep waitin till he ultimately comes around. IDK
I dated a dude two years ago that was married for twenty one years prior to us dating. He’s been divorced and single for five years. After about six dates (and a few sleepovers) he determined to pull the buttplug. Since then, he has called me at least five times a week and texts me on a daily basis,for two freaking years! I have only "bumped into him" here and there, but he insists on being "BFF’s" wtf?? Anyway, I have fallen DEEPLY in love with this boy, he has only had one constant gf since his divorce and that was years ago. So my question is..recently he wants me to "USE HIM" as a booty call, yes that’s right, My booty call. What is he suggesting and Do I DARE go there.
Adrienne F Manson five years ago from Atlanta
Oh sweet holy cow I was a booty call. I feel like a loser. What an excellent and well written hub you have on the subject. Yes, yes, I know in this day and time someone should know if they are a booty call or not. Well it was my very first practice at being one, and I hope to never go there again. (well maybe if its on my terms lol). voted up!
michy, trust me, you CAN live without him. Lightly.
I know I’m a booty call i figured it out before reading this article but just want to prove me right on my guts. I’m actually going to end it now for good. I used to be inlove with him but that feeling is not there anymore after we stop talking for two mos. now that were talking again he still calling when his freaking horny! I just realize now that He such a douchebag I’m glad that I am not crazy with him anymore.
Slept with my x on a monday because he was leaving and i thought one for the road..Left town with out telling good bye on the friday. Three month later drops in Ten.30 pm slash hello tell me how fab his life is and attempts the bootie call . ..Love him still but have let go. . Most likely wont get an appology. and most likely wont hear from him unless he needs a
Sadly, I am someone’s booty call. And point thirty is so right. I can bag at least twenty five signs stated in the above.
What I don’t understand is why doesn’t he leave me alone? He has a hot gf now. We’ve been doing this for almost two years now. Now bear in mind, he’s a DJ one of the top (if not the top) clubs where I live. He has slew other twats out there. Why come back?
For the past year or so since I have realised I might only be his booty call, I almost never initiate a conversation with him.
It cracks my heart because I do love him. And I love it when he cuddles me to sleep, and the fact that he introduces me to his friends. I indeed need to get a life, but I don’t know how. Everytime when I am about to give up, he pops back up. And it is annoying.
I don’t want him but can’t live without him.
Hollie Jayne six years ago from Arkansas
Good outlook and tell tell ways of knowing if your a "Booty call". I totally liked this blog it was good.
Brilliant! So glad I stumbled on this, it made me laugh out noisy at work.
dashingscorpio six years ago
All of these statements are true.
I’d also add if you haven’t met people in his inward circle "close family and friends" or attended any of his company social functions (ie company picnic or Christmas party) then he’s not serious about you.
However "Booty calls" go both ways too!
There are a lot of women having lovemaking with Mr. "RightNow" until they find Mr. Right.
Often times "Booty Calls" and "Friends With Benefits" help to keep things balanced until that special person arrives in our lives. You can fall in love without having hook-up and you can have hook-up without being in love.
As long as what you’re doing is making you glad then it doesn’t matter what it’s called.
Makes me wonder, tho’, why you would like someone in the very first place that you only knew through such superficial conversation, i.e. no introspection, emotional talk, etc.
Booty-Gif-Dot-Com seven years ago from The Wordl of Phat Azz
LOL this made me laugh till my tummy ached and my girlfriends are laughing their brains off!! but true I did have a girlie of mine who couldn’t sense she was a booty call until I pointed it out to her.. poor thing was so distraught she became a lezzie!
Love this one.. excellent hub xx
Reminds me of that All Saints track.
31. Before you’ve even got out of his front door, he’s uploaded your little ‘striptease movie’ to U-Tube.
32. Before you’ve even got home, his mates are sending you text messages asking if you’re "up for a larf" or "mad for it", and being known as "my best mates gaggin for it slapper street honey".
Love and hookup and magic are not a natural threesome.
Cherri Brown-Jett seven years ago from Richmond
This is funny, but truthful. Its time people wake up and recognize it. Reading this was joy!
Sa Toya seven years ago from England
Why thank you and LOL! Thanks for passing by and having a read, lol yes share the wealth 😀
Animal World seven years ago
Oh no Im my Hubby’s Booty Call . LOL. Just the way I like it after upteen years. hehe. I indeed loved your hub. Will be passing this on to a few of my neices .
Cassandra Mantis seven years ago from UK and Nerujenia
Well, it works for me anyhoooh! : )
Sa Toya seven years ago from England
Cheers. I know just what you mean.
Pushing past fear is healthy 😀
Cassandra Mantis seven years ago from UK and Nerujenia
Some women don’t want a relationship, and don’t want to have to look in the man’s eyes. Others do want a relationship. And some women just fantasise. I personally love the quote – "feel the fear and do it anyway!" I liked your hub! You write well!
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